TibKat's Insight's

Blogging. I like to blog. I do. I like to post my random thoughts into a somewhat cohesive story and imagine that others not only enjoy my writing but appreciate my fantastic insights into the world around and then I woke up. Obviously I am not that dedicated to the institute of blogging, seeing that I only made two post in the year 2009.

What did I do that year, you ask??? Ahhh, lets see… Well to start out I accepted a job directing an elementary school’s musical. We decided to do Disney’s Beauty and the Beast so that was my first three months of the New Year. It was a lot of fun and the kids were amazing. It really was great to get back into the swing of directing and interesting how serious they all took the show.

Soon after I started working on Beauty and the Beast we found out we were indeed pregnant with our second child. Oh, Joy!! Oh, Rapture!! Within a few days from finding out I started to bleed and bleeding like I was, is not good. I immediately felt I was miscarrying and Jim and I rushed to the emergency room. I had passed quite a bit of blood and by the time I had gotten there it seemed to have subsided. They did an ultrasound and saw that I was still pregnant. The thought was that I might have miscarried a “twin”. Through it all, Rory Genevieve was born on October 6, 2009.

The spring of 2009, I was bound and determined to not be a “frumpy” pregnant lady. My last pregnancy I was bed ridden for the last 3 months and therefore my wardrobe consisted of a variety of pajama pants and t-shirts. So, Xander and I flew to AZ to visit Carolyn & Mickey and I did a little hip mom shopping. I also frequented a few thrift stores around town and found some second hand pregnancy clothes and some just very large shorts, I was set! I always admire those women who always look good, no matter what state they find themselves in. How do they do it? That summer I attempted it… I’d give myself a B for effort.

I also assistant directed Pirates of Penzance (an all time favorite of my families growing up!) at a community theater in SL with my sister. My husband was a bit involved with the production also, he choreographed the fight scenes. I was excited to help out with the show but a bit antsy, I didn’t want it to take away from my family that summer. So with Jim involved it truly felt as if it was a family affair! Xander loved to be down at the theater watching the Pirates and the Pirate King in there big musical numbers. It was great to shift and be around adults and it also re-reminded me why I don’t act, you have to be around other actors ~ too much ego.

Summer Sundays we hung out at the community pool. Xander never wanted to leave and always broke down crying but within minutes of being in the car would fall immediately a sleep. Watching Jim and Xander play together is a bit of what I imagine heaven to be. This was Xanders first, Big Boy haircut!


The true highlight of our year was the birth of our daughter, Rory. I pushed once and she was here, it makes me a bit sick too ~ Way fast! Xander has been great with her and that’s been a big relief. It’s hard bringing in another body into an already existing family for a little one. He is doing well, we all are.

I hope to blog more this year. Here’s to 2010!!!

Is it alright to pursue or keep old flames as friends?


When two people have shared an intimate relationship and it then ends, can they come back to just being friends? My husband has been married a few times and has kept a relationship with his first wife over the years. Mind you, they have no children together, no reason to “stay connected” except that they have known one another since high school and through it all they have a special bond still to this day.

I am secretly thankful he doesn’t have this connection with any other ex, this one is hard enough for me to handle. One part of me admires him and his ability to keep this relationship over the years. Another part of me is a bit nervous and jealous about this ability to maintain such a close friendship through the years.

I have an ex and we haven't stayed friends, mind you, neither of us have pursued it. My life with my husband and children is wonderful ~ I only see him by my side. I just wonder am I missing out on something by not fostering my ex as a friend? I feel no animosity toward my ex. I wonder if we had ended the relationship on better terms, if we would still possibly be friends? He was at a very significant time in my life, my best friend. Maybe that truly is the hardest thing to have to get over, not the break up but that the friendship is gone.

People fall in and out of love all the time, in a marriage couples find themselves falling in and out through the years. The one through line that seems to be universal and help hold the relationship together through the highs and lows is the friendship. I propose that the friendship is the more intimate part of a relationship. I believe it may hurt the most when that friendship is gone.

So when the love of a relationship is over and that brings the end of a relationship, can just a friendship truly continue, or is there someone who is always holding on to a bit more? Finally, are those of us who do throw those relationships away and don’t look back ~ are we missing out on a deeper friendship and connection by eliminating those relations because the “love” we had is now gone?